Tuesday, August 7, 2018

Community and Growth/Power and Outcome

I admin a FB community group, Black Mountain Exchange.
We are practicing digital community in a counter cultural way.
All members agree to kindness and respect in all words typed in the group.
No random links to outside sources to prove your point. No GIFs. No sarcasm. No bullying. No name calling. No demonizing others because you are right and  they are wrong.
I am learning that some assumptions I have held most of my life are inaccurate.
I am learning there are people who have never experienced kindness- giving and/or recieving.
There are people who honestly believe you get power by taking power away from others.
There are people who given choices will chose to harm themselves and others.

So this is a practice and I cannot do it alone. I need you- you who hate me, who fear me, who wish to do me harm, to practice with me.

In our group, I am inviting us to listen and learn from each other, not type at each other.

It is a practice.

I recently wrote the following:

Thinking about events of the past view days...
I think our power comes in being together, not in changing the outcome.
The Board may appoint another member that won't represent me.
A company willing to lie and disregard local ordinances may continue to work in my Town and endanger my safety.
There may continue, in fact there will continue to be men in this Town, who in my weak moments I fear, and in my strong moments I fear and am not afraid.
And, when folks are engaging with me on these issues, agree or not; When folks are calling me and messaging me and thinking about things I am thinking about ;
And when folks show up at Meetings,just showing up so i have someone to shake my head with.
This gives me a feeling of power. A feeling of shift. A feeling of integrity, that Truth and justice will out.
If everyone who comments here came to Meetings- not just when they had a gripe, came to Meetings to witness what is happening and to stand together as a community; If our meetings were Town meetings, not just Board Meetings- the possibilities could be endless.
We can listen and learn from each other. I see it everyday.
I have a vision of a world where we don't need guards and walls.
I have a vision of a world where all children run free and strong and well fed and healthy.
I don't live in this world alone.
It takes a village and a vision. I need you. You need me.
We're all a part of one body of humanity.
I invite  you to think about spending less time attempting to create the outcome and more time creating community.
Thank you all for being a part of Black Mountain, and this group.


I extend that thanks to all of my digital community, joining me here in Still Waters, where the merit of our time her is for the highest good of all beings.
That all beings may be happy.
That all beings may be peaceful
That all beings may be well, in body mind and Spirit.
That all beings may be safe.
That all beings may be free.

Sunday, June 3, 2018

Forgiveness

Forgiveness opens my heart.
Forgiveness is a powerful expression of love.
When I hold no resentment in my heart, no enmity, I can have no enemies.

Forgiveness does not condone or forget harmful behaviors.
Forgiveness can free me from negative feelings and from living my life in a state of blame.

I am the one set free by forgiveness.
Forgiveness frees me from the need to justify my rationale for holding another  liable for my pain.

I practice forgiveness  meditation daily.

There are many ways that I have hurt and harmed others,
have betrayed or abandoned them, 
caused them suffering, knowingly or unknowingly, 
out of my own pain, fear, anger and confusion.

I ask any who I have harmed to come to me, in the present moment and ask to be forgiven.


I can remember and visualize the ways I have hurt others.

See and feel the pain I have caused out of my own fear and confusion.
Feel my own sorrow and regret. 
ask for forgiveness.
And then to each person in my mind: I ask for your forgiveness, Please forgive me.


There are many ways that I have hurt and harmed myself.
 I have betrayed or abandoned myself many times through thought, word, or deed, knowingly or unknowingly.
I feel the sorrow I carry from this and to the best of my ability, in the present moment I let that go.
For the ways I have hurt myself through action or inaction, out of fear, pain and confusion, I ask to be forgiven. 
I forgive myself.

 There are many ways that I have been harmed by others
abused or abandoned, knowingly or unknowingly, in thought, word or deed. 
I can  picture and remember these hurts, feel the sorrow I have carried from this past. 
I can call, all who have harmed me, real or imagined, known or unknown to me now, and extend forgiveness to the best of my ability, to the extent that I am able, in the present moment. 

I have carried this pain in my heart too long. 

To the extent that I am ready, I offer forgiveness. 
To those who have caused me harm, I offer my forgiveness, I forgive you.

It's a practice.

Please join me.

Comments, questions and prayer requests welcome.


Sunday, December 31, 2017

Brave Girl Cards-Bravery for 2018

A practice-
At the end of the day I create
Brave Girl Cards
from what is left on my desk. 
Almost everyday I give one to someone I don't know. 
That takes bravery on my part.
To offer something of myself, 
and I pray it reminds them to be brave when they need it most.
I fall in love with each card. That is part of the process and practice. 
To love and let go.

Let me know if you need one.

Blessings and bravery to you in 2018


Wednesday, November 22, 2017

Thankful-2017-Mentors

Throughout my life amazing mentors have appeared when needed to guide my development and ground my spiritual being.
Their wisdom and knowledge came from their own experiences and they willing shared that  experience with me.

Now it is my call and my privilege to do the same. I can be available, freely to others and accept the role of mentor.

Caring and nurturing others is a sacred responsibility. I must practice and witness to kindness, compassion, patience.

Sharing what I know, from direct experience enables and encourages others to stretch their wings, take risks, and walk in faith.

 Individual growth and change is easier in companionship, in community.
I am thankful for humility and being teachable. I am thankful for valuing relationship over being right. I am thankful to have two hands and a heart to reach out to other hands and hearts.

I am filled with gratitude and joy for the opportunity to be of service.

Happy Thanksgiving.





Tuesday, November 21, 2017

The extinction of experience.

Why do we have to speak out about inappropriate behavior; sexual, violent, bullying abusive behavior?
If we don't, I fear our collective memory is at risk.
We cannot remember what we have never known.
Just as forest organisms have specific needs to grow, that are lost when we manage and clear cut our forests, human organisms have specific needs, and when they are not met, we may vanish as well.

We are facing, the extinction of experience(Robert Michael Pyle).
If you have never known Peace, Equanimity, Safety, Wellness, Happiness, will you miss them?
Will they become extinct?

I learn from the collective unconscious that holds these Truths.
You can too.

Please take time to pray, meditate, be silent and still.
Please make visible, Peace, Equanimity, Safety, Wellness and happiness in your daily life.
Practice them and share them with others.
Please reach out and create relationship and community.
Please release what isolates you and nourish what connects you.
Please talk a walk in the forest and thank the trees. Protect the trees.

Please join me in practice.

Thank you.


Comments and Questions warmly welcomed.

Friday, January 27, 2017

The Value of Zero

My mothers taught me, begin every list with zero.

We were a tribe of list makers, doers, busy handed;
and yet the teaching was always begin by waiting.

Waiting for : stillness, direction, clearness, opportunity,  someone else to do it!, the music, mystery, magic.

The buddha teaches:
Suffering = Pain x Resistance..... zero resistance, zero suffering.
Pain is inevitable. Suffering is not.

There is a lot of talk of resistance right now.
Lots of lists.
I am a list maker: bullets, numbered, flow charts, pictograms, and each begins with
Do nothing.

There will always  be time to do something. Treasure the time and privilege to do nothing.

Comments Questions and Prayer requests always welcomed.

Sunday, December 4, 2016

Community, protection,vision, change.

Since the election, storms of uncertainty and fear have arisen. It is time to collectively stand up, calm and clear. With peacefulness and mutual respect, our communities can become centers of protection and vision.
Protection can take many forms. Protection can be providing sanctuary for those in danger. Protection can be skillfully confronting those whose actions would harm the vulnerable among us. Protection can be standing up for the environment. Protection can be becoming an active ally for those targeted by hate and prejudice.
Vision means carrying the light. It means standing up for the truth—no matter what:
“Hatred never ceases by hatred, but by love alone is healed.”
“Greed, Hate and Ignorance create suffering. Generosity, Love and Wisdom bring happiness.”
“Mind is the forerunner. Speak and act with a pure mind and happiness will follow.”
“Plant seeds of goodness, and well-being will grow.”
Now a time of change has come.
We must listen deeply, bear witness, honor everyone, and choose our actions wisely and courageously.
Do not worry if the Right Action is not yet clear to you.
Wait in the unknowing with mindfulness and a clear heart.
Soon the right time will come and you will know to stand up.
I will meet you there.

Paraphrased with Jack Kornfield